If I asked you who are the most important people in your life, most of you would name a member of your family, gave me the name of your best friend or immediately thought of your romantic partner. Would you be so quick with your answer if I asked you to remember when was the last time you looked them in the eye and shared with them your regret, admiration or forgiveness?
Do you struggle with these conversations? Do you feel like you talk all the time but rarely say something that matters? Do you feel like you didn’t have enough time to ask the most important questions to someone who is no longer with you?
conversations that make life meaningful.
So how do we have more of those conversations?
How is it possible that we feel fearful to speak to the people we just called the most important people in our lives? We often feel like no-one understands us, like we have no-one to talk to at the end of a bad day. And yet, our moms are a phone call away. Our partners are just in the next room. And our friends are a WhatsApp message away. So what’s the gap between ‘These are the most important people in my life’ and ‘I am ashamed to tell you about the mistake I made at work.’ or ‘I think you will not accept that I am in love with someone who doesn’t reflect your expectations.’
It is fear that prevents us from sharing those stories. So we layer them, one of top of the other, we hide them deep inside ourselves and we let them grow heavier for so long that we cannot bear it anymore. Our secrets overpower us so much that we feel more comfortable speaking to a stranger rather than our own family or a friend.
But think about this: It’s not really the length of our relationships but the depth of our
Invite more meaningful conversations into your life by starting them. Give yourself the opportunity to learn and gain more clarity about the people you love the most.
So…what’s on your mind?
Siddharth Anantharam is the Head of Evercoach, Mindvalley’s Coaching division.
He is also the Founder of Life Circles, an organisation that provide spaces, tools, and methodologies that are designed to help people have conversations that matter.
Do you do that often? Or do you live your authentic self, always?
The choice of living your true self is going to be hard, it’s like betting everything on one card. But it’s also an incredible freedom of knowing that, whether that card wins or loses, you will be ok with that.
Authenticity is standing up for yourself even if you know it might be difficult for someone you love.
It’s about knowing that besides a parent, child, friend, employee or business owner, you are something else.
What? That depends on you.
Maybe you are outspoken and you already know how to make your voice heard and count, maybe you are someone who likes to observe from afar. Maybe you don’t know what your authentic self is yet, and accepting that is authentic in its own way.
To Kristina Mand-Lakhiani, our greatest potential comes from self-acceptance and authenticity.
So, do you have the courage to rise to your strengths and your flaws in exchange for true freedom, success, and authentic life?
Here is a 3 min extract from her talk at LifePlugin Summit in Goa 2019 named “Lifelong Romance with The Self”.
Please give this a watch and share it with your close friends, family and anyone out there who may need a little reminder to trust themselves more, and to operate from their best, authentic self every day.
Come see us at the upcoming LifePlugin Summit, we can’t wait to meet your true self ❤️
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Kristina Mand Lakhiani is a serial entrepreneur, speaker, mother, philanthropist, everyday-life philosopher, and a woman on her own journey of spiritual growth. She is also the co-founder of Mindvalley, a global school that delivers transformational education for all ages. Her mission is to help you create an extraordinary life by making authenticity the heart of your being.
And with her, it’s not all work — accepting yourself is also about pleasure and play.
Find our more about her at kristinamand.com